If we trace the history of mankind, we would find the means of communication have constantly evolved. First, it was sign language, then we moved on to verbal via mouth, from there to written (letters, telegram…), then a sudden development in technology led to analog era. Radio, television, telephone… We didn’t stop there. With the DotCom bubble bubbling, our communication got digitalized, e-mails and behold the new-age of communication: FB chat…
I know hardly a day passes without seeing that box or hearing that pop sound. But it’s sure has got a lot of grey side. Here’s 7 reasons why I hate Facebook chat:
1. Pointless: Majority of our conversations are pointless. We will just hi-hello, enquire about trivialities plus most of the time there’s an obligation to chat, rather than the desire. Many people, trust me many, just wait hours for their crushes to be online and then waste more hours chatting with them in hope that someday that a strong friendship will brew which will turn into a relationship. Trust me, your probability tends to 0. If you want to blossom a relationship, you have to go and talk with her/him.
2. Poor return: If I invest my money, I naturally expect a significant profit and in no way loss. But in fb chat, even after squandering 60 minutes in chat, its hardly worth 10 minutes of phone conversation.
3. Addictive: Life is best lived when we are addicted, but to a white screen with a blue header. I don’t think so. I believe, you may have heard this line “Yaar! Saara Time to fb mein hi nikal jaata hain. Aaj se fb bandh”. And then, many more times from the same person…
4. ‘Hhmm’: This is a highly irritating phrase (its not even a phrase). The other person will initiate the conversation and after one-two enquiries, the same person will write “Hhmm”, neither party understanding the meaning and leaving other person the obligation to continue the chat and. Hadd irritating hai, yaar.
a. Scenario #1: Since on fb, there’s no way of knowing the paralanguage, things are taken completely in a wrong sense and have to face the scenario. Try giving sarcasms and you will know.
b. Scenario #2: You are chatting very comfortably but due to some net error, the msg is not send and both parties keep waiting thinking what the hell he/she’s writing or why he/she isn’t responding? Both parties considering each other rude.
c. Scenario#3: Someone else is accesing our a/c and rest we all have gone through…
6. Unwanted ‘hi’: I am already chatting with someone when suddenly, one name pops up, then another. Interestingly, there’s a strong probability that the name popped-up is either someone you have been avoiding or someone who haven’t maintained any contact in years or that someone is sitting right across the wall.
7. Emptiness: When you really desire to talk with someone, no one’s there. To add to the pile, “63 friends online”.
“Ek din ek shayaar ne apne aansoon se pucha
Itni bhari mehfil mein kyun aajate ho,
Hamare tanhayee mein aaya karo
Aasoon ne kaha kya Karen
Itni bhari mehfil mein bhi hum aapko tanha paate hain”
The bottom line, talk in person or over phone if you can. If possible, spend time with your real friends not chat buddies or doing new things. You can chat whenever you want but that idle moment, where you could have share a coffee will never come back.